This very personal essay was written for the site xoJane.

And now writer Michael Arceneaux is adding even more complication to the story by writing about his own fear of expressing his sexuality as a gay man. What's that all about? We were thinking about how, at a time when America's laws and much of it society is ever more welcoming to LGBT people expressing sexuality, especially for gay men, is still so controversial and sometimes even dangerous. The response is still raging across social media with some saying it's about time, others expressing annoyance and anger and still others expressing anger at that anger. ESPN was there to document the moment, which included a kiss he shared with his boyfriend upon learning the happy news. Add same-sex attraction and it gets even more difficult for many people, something we were reminded of recently when Michael Sam, an openly gay college player was selected in the NFL draft by the St. Let's turn now to something many people still find hard to talk about, which is sexuality.